Dr. Kristin Neff explains why self-compassion is healthier in the long term than self-esteem. Self-esteem often focuses on what you have in comparison to others, especially in the West where being “average” is often seen as a sign of failure or incompetence. As a result, this cultural construct creates a never-ending cycle of feeling bad about ourselves because someone will always be richer, smarter, and more attractive than we are. In contrast, self-compassion pushes us to carry ourselves with respect and love, even when we fall short of expectations or make mistakes. It is about honoring ourselves, other people, and the nature around us in recognition of their right to dignity.